Nude Colored Shoes for Your Wardrobe

I have a confession…

 

I love neutral colored shoes.

Heels, Flats, Sneakers, Sandals. ALL SHOES!

Though, I feel like this isn’t a confession because I probably admitted it before in a previous post. Oops! Anyway, I noticed I am always drawn to this color scheme. To me, it shows class and matches with everything. They go great with a pair of dark denims, a skirt or a mini dress. Also, for some odd reason, I like how you can’t tell apart if you are wearing shoes or not. Since you know, nude/neutral shoes can match your skin tone.

I have always been a fan of ASOS. If you want to look different, go ASOS. If you want to find a cute top but don’t want to spend $100 on it, go to ASOS. Literally everything you want or need, will be on ASOS.com. This is no way a sponsored post, I just love this brand!

I want to share a few shoes that I want everyone to own in your wardrobe.

 

 

This may be a biased post FYI…

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Leather Booties

Booties and Leather, what a perfect combo! These booties are so perfect for fall/winter. I can picture you wearing this with a black dress and a trench coat. They look comfy and are fashionable. Effortless runway look, for sure.

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Western Booties

I have another pair of booties everyone needs to own. It has the boho, western feel to it. Personally, I am not a fan of cowboy boots. But fringe is a thing everyone seems to love.  Super cute for a casual look, maybe out with friends or a date night with your partner.

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Flats

THESE GIVE ME LIFE! Nude, flat and leather! Whenever you are not in the mood to wear heels or just want to keep it casual and cute, grab these loafers. They can and will match with everything.

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Flatform

Alright, this is a controversial pick.  If you have always been the girl to play it safe with clothing, I dare you to get a pair of these. I promise, these will feel like a dope ass queen. It’s still playing it safe with it being a lighter tone shoe. But with the shine and the flatform, this is daring and will make a damn statement to your look!

 

Would any of you wear the shoes I picked out?

Forgiveness

I have a hard time forgiving myself. I think we all do. For all of the mistakes we have made, whether it’s a career choice, failed relationships that we desperately wanted to work and even not getting that chocolate cake we’ve been craving. It feels like every day; we would carry a huge brick on our shoulders. This baggage that we didn’t need. Instead of acknowledging it, we would distract ourselves with events that involves perhaps alcohol. We all know with about 2 shots of whatever and couple of glasses of wine, we would be all fine and dandy. Our problems were solved! Until we sobered up. We would force the feeling to go away. With force, the feeling would just come back, but stronger.

I want to talk about a relationship I had recently. This person was someone I knew from the beginning I did not want any relationship with. My mind knew it but my heart didn’t. I saw the red flags. I saw everything. Games were played, controlling characteristics showed up, Insecurities overpowered both of us. Clearly, it was an unhealthy relationship. I didn’t care, I thought he cared for me. I was so desperate trying to fill a void, of being wanted and loved, that I wanted to stay. We all crave love, being wanted and needed.  When we do want something desperately, we tend to jump right into it. Before I knew it, it was over. I didn’t know what to do but blame myself for why it did not work out.

There were two things I could have done.

  1. I could just dwell. Hope and pray he will come running back. I could easily just call him up and beg to get back together.

or

  1. Acknowledge my feelings and move on

 

I’m choosing the second. Instead of saying it, I’m going to do it.

The first step of moving on is to forgive yourself.

 

I forgive myself for playing games with him.

I forgive myself for trying to make something work when it was not working at all.

I forgive myself for seeking attention from other men while with him.

I forgive myself for my own insecurities and past failed relationship problems.

I forgive myself for playing with my own emotions.

I forgive myself for not being honest with myself.

I forgive myself for reaching out to him when I know I shouldn’t.

I forgive myself for having hope that there may have been something.

I forgive myself for being cruel.

I forgive myself for staying.

 

Of course, I will not get over this overnight. I will have my very good days when I don’t think about it at all and I am happy. Then I will have my very bad days when I will want and crave him. But I can control it. I can and I will. Because to love yourself, means to take care of yourself.

One Year!

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While I was writing in my journal the other day, I was curious to know what I wrote about exactly one year ago today. Or maybe somewhere close to this date. What I read, made me tear up. One year ago today, I created Mattelipstickandcoffee.com.

One. Year. Ago.

Along with creating this blog, I applied to be a Lifehack.org contributor AND had thoughts about moving out of state. Forward to today, I got the contribution from Lifehack.org and I am moving to New York City in November. It just amazes me how times flies. I mean it is still flying, later this week it’s going to be September.

I do want to mention this, I had so much drive and passion in what I wanted to do. The fact that I actually did want I stated what I was going to do, kind of surprised me. Lately, I don’t know if I’m going through a twenty-five-year-old crisis but I lost that drive. I haven’t been enjoying my own writing. I haven’t finished a book since June. Not wanting to creative material or do things I enjoyed. That scared me. Actually, it still scares me that I could lose anything so quicky. But after reading my entry, help me gain my faith and confidence back. I just have to pick up the pieces, hold my head up high and take control on what I truly love to do.

Everything happens for a reason right?
I can’t even imagine what one year from now will be like. Though with that, I can’t want to buckle my seatbelt to see where this journey leads me.

 

 

 

P.S  My featured photo in this post was taken by my talent friend Heather! Check her out if you live in the Dallas area. Soleiletlunephotography.com

Dear Twenty Five Year Old Me

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So you turned 25.

We get it. I get it. You’re half way to 30. You haven’t accomplished what you wanted by now. You’re not married. The list goes on and on. But do me a huge favor, take a deep breath. You know what you are doing? Living, learning and loving.

Everyday that I can remember. You were stressing about things you shouldnt. What people think, what your exes are thinking, why didn’t this happen the way you wanted it to. Instead of stressing about the things you can’t control, which you do have a habit of doing. FYI, work on that please. It is not cute and it will burn you in so many different ways. Don’t think so? 2016, has been that year for you. Anyway, instead try to find a way to control yourself. Meaning your feelings and actions. If you say you are going to do something. Do it. If you want to be sad, do it.

Also, 25, you’re still young. God still so young. There is so much more out there to learn. You thought 2016 was a rough year, wait till you have in store of the rest of your life. But again, you can control it. It’s your life. I’m here to tell you, you are doing fine. You’re just a normal 20 something. Sure you can be a princess. Sure you can be dramatic but that makes you, you. You are also a kind person. A hard worker. A person with drive.

You are moving to New York here in November. That is close. So very close. Live today day to day. Have fun with your friends. Drink all the alcohol you want, well maybe. Make random trips to see your friends. Be kind to people. Be you. You surround yourself with great people. What more can you ask for?

You are living the life that you have been wanting. One day it will be perfect and the next it won’t be. It’s okay. That will happen. Keep on discovering yourself. Find hobbies you enjoy, talk to people who enlighten you, have fun in your free time.

I don’t want this letter to sound harsh or to put yourself down. I want this letter to lift that brick off your shoulder. It’s fine love. It’s your birthday. It’s your life.

Happy 25th Birthday!

I Am Everywhere

It’s been about 2 weeks since I have posted anything on my blog. It’s been such a rough few weeks for me. I haven’t felt like myself. Everything from reading books, listening to podcast, working out and just getting inspired. Nothing. I’ve noticed every time I did try to write or do any of the things I listed in the sentence earlier, it was like I was forcing it. And I don’t want to force anything.

 

My emotions have been everywhere. Feeling so lost. Wanting to fix everything in my life. Wanting everything to be perfect. One day I will be happy. The next I will be crying over nothing. It’s just been so much.  On top of everything, my dog passed away, unexpectedly. I have been very fortunate to not experience any deaths in my life, until now. Now it is like a reality check.  As you can tell, I am not taking it very easily.

 

So I told myself this, cut it out. You had your time. Get back up on your feet and start from step one.

With that, I will be taking photos this weekend for this blog. Along with having a better layout.

 

I am so excited and ready.

 

See you next Tuesday.

Must Have Sandals for Summer 2016

Lately, I have been doing more online shopping than I should. In a way I feel bad because I am spending when I know I need to be saving. Then I think, treat yourself. I’m not saying spend $500. Do it in moderation. Actually…there will be a different post about treating yourself. Be prepared.

Summer is finally here! Can you believe this week, it will be July?! Let’s all take it in that this year is FLYING. With the sun beaming and temperate rising, the last thing you want to do is wear shoes that make your feet sweat!

Lace is such a huge trend for this summer. I am going to sharing with you, 3 different type of lace sandals that are perfect for any day.

Note ** This is not sponsored by Topshop. I just love everything there. **

 

Tan Lace Up:

Sandals like these will go great for any casual day. Pair them up with a simple t shirt and jeans, it makes the perfect effortless look.

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http://us.topshop.com/en/tsus/product/daily-ghillie-sandal-5387330

 

Lace Sandal Heel:

Out and about with your errands. Meeting with friends for lunch. Great for if you want some height if you are a little girl like myself.

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http://us.topshop.com/en/tsus/product/rosa-knotted-sandals-5233597

 

Blue Lace Heel:

How fun are these?! Out on a date to a nice dinner. Maybe a presentation for work. These shoes say you are a woman who is fun and determined.

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http://us.topshop.com/en/tsus/product/rara-fringe-braided-sandals-5426769